adding to the above.. I recommend that you exhaust the D40 before retiring it... you might want to start autoguiding before you give up on it.... make sure that your mount is sturdy enough.. a poor mount will not allow you to get any quality images no matter what camera you use...
If the shutter is vibrating your telescope, that tells me that your mount might be flimsy... you can see if your DSLR has a mirror lockup feature which will help with vibration.
With your images being noisy, I assume that you're exposing at max gain, ISO? Once you're tracking/Guiding and exposing some good length of time than you can expose with a smaller ISO, which will take care of most of the noise problem...
I'd say that almost everyones first DSO that they're happy with would be the Orion Nebula, nice bright object... and this object can also be a guide to whether you should upgrade (or mod) your DSLR... you can get an amazing image with a unmodded, stock DSLR of the Orion Nebula if your system is working as it should.
Once again, take your time, do not rush it.... do not have unrealistic expectations and never give up.. we all started with mediocre images....