UPDATE!
I did it! I started over, rechecked all balances, levels, pointing geo. North, the park settings, etc and ensuring nothing was obstructing the polar scope passage during the day - I then worked on the assumption I was missing Polaris by millimetres due to the narrow field of view.
Therefore to help me know exactly where in the cosmos I was actually pointing, I shone a laser light through the polar scope eyepiece (i kept an eye flout for aircrafts) - once I could see that I started on the adjistment bolts, checking every now and then on the progress.
Bingo, Polaris was finally close enough to appear in my polar scope! I was about to finish up when the clouds rolled in, but alas, I got there! Just taken me 4+ bloody weeks and lots of doubts abouts my eyesight.
Thank you everyone who responded to my call for help. All the answers got me to the finishing line as I was able to double check things, discounts others, you gave me new ideas to try and encouraged me to keep going.
You are ALL amazing - much gratitude to everyone here 👏 👏.
Liz