Hello DS

I have the same scope as you, and often use the 3x barlow with a high mag eyepiece for planetary viewing, or splitting doubles.
You will find that, as the magnification goes up, the 'sweet spot' for focus - the best focus you can get for that magnification, will get very tight, and hard to come by. Of course, if the image you are seeing is distorted because of the seeing (the conditions in the atmosphere that effect the quality of viewing) it will be harder to get good focus, and a good image.
Sometimes it can be easy to think 'this is the scope's maximum useful magnification, so at this much below that, I should easily get a good image' - but it just doesn't work like that alot of the time. It all depends on the object, the seeing, and transparency - alot of things come into play.
My advice would be to knock down the magnification a bit when you find it hard to focus with the 3x barlow - perhaps use the 2x barlow instead, and see what the image is like then. If you can get a decent image at lower mag, I find it fairly safe to say, in my own experience, that the seeing just can't 'handle' higher magnification on that particular night. It's a guessing game, and a game of chance. You just have to play it by ear.
Here's an article on the atmosphere and observing, if you would like to read up on it to understand
The Atmosphere and Observing - A guide to Astronomical seeing. - How To
Don't feel disheartened, and remembe,r the longer you observe an object for (say, in one night, or on consecutive clear nights) you have more of a chance of getting those glimpses of good seeing and conditions that will let you push the scope to its limit.
edit: as you take the magnification higher, the light that you are seeing from the object is 'spread over' a larger area - making the object bigger, or magnified. You might get a sharper image at lower magnification, but as you 'zoom in' adding other eyepieces, these details are stretched out and so become less crisp, an dmaybe a little blurry. This could also account for the problem (it has in my experience) particularly if the seeing was shoddy too.
HTH
Edited by ashenlight, 09 February 2010 - 04:15 PM.